It’s another edition of #3NoMoreThan5 in 5, from the wild. And the word of the day is “vibe.” I’ve been visiting with my friend Andrea over the past few days and “vibe” kept coming up. How do we, she and I, vibe? What are the things that cause us to vibe with others? And that prompted me to think, “what are those things for me!?” What are the characteristics, the traits, the elements that attract me to people and perhaps are key components to those that surround me? So in the spirit of #3NoMoreThan5 in 5, I came up with 3. They might change down the road at some point, but for right now in this moment in time, the 3 that popped into my head were:
- Intelligence — I love being around smart people. I don’t mind being the dumbest person in the room because those that are smarter than me or have intelligence about something that I don’t know, they help me grow! They help me learn! They teach me things which I think is amazing! I’m so attracted to smart, intelligent people. That’s a vibe I seek out.
- Generosity — I’m not talking about the people that are going to write me a check. Although if you are giving away money, I’m not going to fight you! Right me a check! I’ll accept it, thank you very much. But what I’m talking about are those that are generous with their time, generous with their advice, generous with their support. These are things that I see as a common factor among my friends, the colleagues that I’ve enjoyed working with, and I’m grateful for that! So thank you to those that have been so generous with me!
- Storytelling — I love being around people who can engage me in a good story. You know me! I can talk to a paper bag and make it talk back to me. So when I’m able to engage with people that tell a story that can transport me to a different place, that can help me see a different perspective, that can show me to think about things in a way that maybe I wouldn’t have thought to do otherwise cause our experiences are different; that ability to draw me into a story is something that attracts me.
People that are smart, people who are generous, people who engage in great storytelling are the vibes that attract me, the vibes that I seek out. And I think these things are important to think about because we don’t have a lot of time. Time is demanded for everything — work, play, school, family, career — And once time is gone, it’s gone for good! That’s not coming back. So to spend time thoughtfully, intentionally identifying what we vibe with, what are the traits and characteristics we seek out in the people we want to surround ourselves with, I think that’s time well spent! And it’s those intentional decisions and being around those people that you vibe with that can offer the support, that can feed your soul, and help you learn and help you grow. All of those thing, I think, make you a well rounded person, help achieve the levels of career growth and success that you’re seeking, and like I said; they feed your soul!
So what’s it for you? What do you vibe with? What are the characteristics of your vibe tribe? I’d love to hear about it! So think on that and share.
Until next time, cheers!